OF LOVE AND RELATIONS
I never tried to take a close look at human relations. The regular adda at the ghats beside
our college is a perfect place for smoking. Moments of magic, fun and
relaxations were just simply puffed into the air flashed out as smoke from the
mouth. No concerns were placed regarding the scenario of human beings and the
path that was giving a complete makeover in human relations.
Last Thursday on a similar set up our gang of five was
enjoying at the ghat. A guy puffed up
smoke into the air and popped up with the dialogue that he had broken up with
his girlfriend after a long relationship of three months. His EX although now!
Is that all how you suddenly begin to assign this particular
nickname to a person who at one time was everything for you? Aren’t relations
delicate? Is the bond of love so very fragile that it is on the hands of mood
fluctuations? When I asked him the reason of breakup he said that he had found
her talking to another guy.
SO WHAT? Is
possessiveness applied to the soul which stands to soothe the heart? One
misunderstanding stands so very serious? Then what understanding did he have
during the entire relation?
‘LOVE’ that strange word which means the association of
hearts, the purity, the blend of emotions and attachments’. By loving someone
we tend to submit ourselves into his/her’s trust. The mere attachments’ of pleasure
and fun has erased something that is called LIFE. That realization, that dil ka dhadkana, that nervousness, that
shyness, that strange bonding, that feeling when the hands accidently touch
each other, that first treat, that eye contact, that enjoyment of togetherness
and endless other small garnishes that bring out the passion, the dedication
and the romance. ALL ARE LOST! Our haste and mere physical pleasures are placed
at top preference. Moreover, our generation has now adapted to a strange
culture of feeling bored. How can one feel bored in love?
Osho says “love is all about appreciation and not
attachments’”. Well now love is all about possessing a cool, rich and hot
guy/girl rather than a good and genuine person. Being humble is an old quality,
now we prefer being rude.
Have you heard of the common phrases “managing GF/BF”?
Commodities are the things which need to be managed and not relations. And the
one who acts to manage love ends up in an emotional misery. Mere waiting day
and night for calls and messages doesn’t show love, instead working hard day
and night to make the future bright and the standing by your love shows its
true attachment. Costly gifts, cards and money can never buy love, it’s
reserved only for pleasure. Love can be brought with a smile and a heart.
Trust is blind. Then why does the concept of
misunderstanding arise in relations. This is only because of the lack of
attachment and feelings. It might also be a cause for severe depressions and
sometimes may lead to breaking of relations. This needs to be immediately
sorted out in a relationship with mutual talks involving the couple. Remember
during the talk be simple, decent and be good (not a fake one).
Lust and love are two very different terms. They should be
never be mistaken as same. Lust is thirst, which involves a search of physical
pleasures. When you simply reach the epitome of pleasure findings; you move on,
on a new target. Love, on the other hand is a journey, the more you travel-the
more you explore. Relations are very pure. Never let them get weakened on the
sands of time. Never taunt or disrespect them. Instead, preserve them and then
you will learn the way to live a life.
That feeling not only occurs by a combination of chemical
hormones within the body, but it is a phenomenon where the mind, body and soul
sublime in the hands of an entity simply, without fearing the consequences.
Love is a reflection of an object between two mirrors which shows infinity.
When you love someone, focus more on your future so that no matter whatever is
the opposition faced, the brighter side will always remain. Never cry or shout
over useless things as it tends to destroy the rust and the base of a
relationship. Always solve it with silence and a SMILE.
Love is also blind like trust, so let it flow. Never see
where you are being lead but believe as long as you have a hand to hold you
will be safe. If you fall in love, fall deeply, carefree for wherever you land
you will be safe and sound. “Are pyar
thori na roz-roz hota hai”
Love and be loved. Cheers!
